Last night, I sat down to write out my New Year's resolutions and realized my resolutions looked more like a project to-do list rather than a theme or two upon which to improve.
After a (very) little bit of reflection, I realized this was due to the fact that my life is in a good place right now. I am happy and healthy. Granted, it took living through some hellacious parts of 2012 where I was peeling my self-confidence off of the floor on a daily basis. But patience and persistence paid off. And what didn't kill me made me stronger. Just like Kelly Clarkson said it would.
And I have this feeling in every fiber of my being that 2013 is going to be good year.
While 2012 brought with a focus on examining my flaws and how to improve upon them rather than let them form roadblocks, I know that I want to 2013 to bring with it a need to stop comparing myself to everyone around me and just focus on me.
To stop measuring my worth or success by what everyone else is doing relative to what I am doing.
To stop coveting things that others have.
To stop panicking that everyone is getting married and having kids and I can barely keep my bamboo plant alive without giving it some spirited pep talks after I forget to water it for a month.
It has been written or said by many before me but sometimes social media--blogs, Twitter, Facebook-- just makes it so easy to fall victim to comparison. And I just need to stop it. Because I am pretty awesome. Even if I am a plant-killer.
{VIA}
Happy New Year!!!!
Great outlook! I felt the same way, my resolutions are more of a to-do list. Don't worry about the bamboo, I've killed a cactus before; I didn't think that was possible.
ReplyDeleteI love this mantra!! So so so so true.
ReplyDeletefun story time,
ReplyDeletewhen I was getting my masters, I made a friend in the program, Na. She had just come over from China and we would work together on homework and such. Thing was though, it was always me asking questions of *her*, it was like she always knew the answer and I was always playing catch-up, and I felt really depressed since I felt like she was more or less my equal but I couldn't be as good as her.
Well, about 3/4 of the way through the year I found out that she would go to this *other* guy in the program for help, one who had already gotten his masters in math and was then getting a Phd in statistics. Someone who I would never, ever compare myself too, guy was brilliant.
that is when I learned the lesson of, be careful who you compare yourself to.
/I also cannot keep plants alive. Pets- ok. Plants- just don't care.
//haha I first typed that as: I also cannot keep planets alive. Both versions true I guess.
Omg, you killed Pluto! I knew it! (kidding, of course)
ReplyDeleteThanks for this great perspective on comparison. I have been thinking about all day since you posted it.
Ahh, I had a cactus on my list as a plant I should look into because I couldn't kill it.
ReplyDeleteYou are pretty awesome!!!! Happy New Year to you!
ReplyDeleteI agree and have some of the same goals for 2013 and beyond....especially that of being envious or wanting what others have...because I have a ton of things to be grateful for :-)